SAY YES to yourself. You are worth it.
We often put everybody else’s needs before ours, doing things that make others happy.
When was the last time you took time out for yourself?
It’s time for you to put your needs first before you get worn out by always saying yes to others.
Give yourself permission to make yourself a priority so you can start experiencing life on your own terms.
Don’t wait like I did for someone to give me permission to get happy.
Start Saying Yes To
1. Taking a Break
Many people often feel they have to be on the go and work hard every day Because they feel guilty for taking a break. After all, society perceives taking a break as being ‘lazy’.
Research has shown it’s actually healthy for us to take a break. In fact, we are encouraged to play because it helps relieve stress and can positively impact our physical and mental health. In addition, it can stimulate our creativity and make us more productive.
So next time you feel guilty about spending a day doing nothing, or get worried about taking a vacation or taking a lunch break, for goodness sake, don’t.
You deserve it. We all need time to recharge and relax.
It’s for the betterment of our well being. Your health is your wealth. Without it, you can’t do anything.
2. Making Mistakes
Even when you have done all you can to prepare and plan for something, you can’t always anticipate everything that is going to happen.
Have faith that you’ll be able to handle anything that comes your way.
If required, ask for help. Your mistake is just a ‘Miss’Take. Learn from the experience and move on.
3. Being Imperfect
It is perfectly fine to be imperfect. We are imperfectly perfect beings. The idea of being perfect is an unrealistic ideal and is a tall order for anybody. When you say yes to being imperfect, it will save you a lot of anxiety and unnecessary time and energy wasted worrying about what others think. Just do your best.
By saying yes to failing, you give yourself the permission to try something you want to do.
Sometimes this can motivate you to get out of your comfort zone and do what you have been itching to do.
Remember to keep an open mind and if things don’t turn out the way you want it to, it’s ok.
The fact that you gave it a try helps build your courage. It helps you grow, and most importantly it takes you one step closer to achieving what it is that you want. Alternatively, it can also help you realize what it is that you don’t want. This means there will be no more ‘what ifs’. You will know whether you want to try again or not.
5. Feel Whatever It Is You Are Feeling
Your emotions help guide you to what it is you want. And what we all want is to feel better. So if you are feeling crappy, take the time to allow yourself to feel crappy until it moves through you (in a physical sense). Once it has, do something about the situation you are in, so that you can feel better.
6. Asking For Help
We all need help from time to time, even though we want to often think we can handle everything by ourselves. Instead of doing it all on your own, don’t be afraid to ask for help. As Steve Job once said “This is what separates sometimes the people who do things and people who dream about them.” And say yes when people offer. When you say yes, you are giving others the opportunity to give and that can help them feel good. It’s a win-win.
7. Doing Things that Make You Feel Good
Do things that make you feel good. Period.
8. Treating Yourself
Indulge. Whether that is buying that outfit that makes you feel good, or ordering that gourmet pizza or decadent dessert. Like my friend Lue Maxwell, holistic health coach says “go for the gusto.” There’s no harm in doing so from time to time. Know what is right for you based on your circumstance.
9. Digital Detox
Technology has us by the wayside from the time we get up to when we go to bed. It drives our lives and we often let it control us. Just like your phone needs to recharge, you do too. So take the time to unplug from the digital world. You’ll not only think better, you’ll feel better, reminding you of the real priorities in life. You may come to notice nothing fell apart during your hiatus.
10. Connecting With Others
“No Man is an island”- John Donne
As humans, we need love and connection. From the time we are born, we seek the touch of our mothers and want to feel loved, safe and taken care of. Throughout our lives we continue to interact and connect with others to build friendship, find love and build a network where we belong. We are constantly connecting with our environment and other people.
It is through connection and love that keeps us going when the going gets tough. So make time to catch up with a friend in person or over the phone, say yes to finding your ideal partner, say yes to spending time with those who matter to you and make a difference in your life.
Let go of things that no longer support you in your life. Be it an object, person, activity, obligations.
In doing so, you create room for the new, and while you clear out the things you no longer need, why not start setting boundaries of what you are willing to let into your life?
You will be amazed by saying yes to these 11 things in your life. Your energy will begin to shift as you become more connected to who you are and what you want to create. Be Bold. Say yes.
Photo by: Nadi Whatisdelirium