My name is Theresa Ho. I’m an 80’s music lovin’, freedom-lovin’, old-fashioned drinkin’, spa lover & travel junkie.
Born in Taiwan and immigrated to Canada, my Asian parents wanted the best for me. When we first moved to Canada, the best meant:
- Blending in with the kids at school (think: invisibility)
- Never questioning elders, or attempting to rock the proverbial boat
- Thinking of everyone else before myself
- Pushing myself in academia and making them proud
When I started taking on Western values, my parents judged me for it. I was disappointing them. And when I was being too Asian around my friends, they laughed at me for it. The result? A people-pleasin’ confused Theresa who was struggling to find where on earth acceptance was.
In short, I was depressed
But I felt like I had no right to be. Life wasn’t difficult. Was I making it difficult?
When we seek approval from others, we stay small and conform to what everyone else want us to be.
And this? Taught me the power of stepping into someone else’s shoes. Seeing things from their perspective. And not judging myself through their eyes by showing myself compassion.
If my story rings true, I’ve got news for ya:
There is more to life than walking around living it through the eyes of someone you’re not, living out someone else’s life plan, when you’ve got your own desires to fulfill.
This is when I decided unlike
- get to have control of where we spend our time;
- can take time off without feeling guilty or cash-strapped;
- we are allowed to embrace who we are, and less of what everyone else wants us to be;
- have options and choose what we want to do, and take life into our own hands.
With this new found awareness, I realize it isn’t about giving the middle finger to someone who judges you. It’s about showing them compassion – the same compassion you show yourself. It isn’t about being angry about the experiences you’ve had. It’s about understanding them to maneuver through the rest of your life.
The power of awareness enables you to see new perspectives and take inspired action to take a chance and choose to do something different to change your life.
So I decided to ask work if they would grant me a personal leave for a year. They said yes. I packed my bags and ventured out to meet new people, travel, and learn how to create a life, and make a living outside of the rat race.
Nothing is more satisfying than knowing you are in control of getting yourself back in the flow and creating the life you want to experience.
Life is short. Stop walking around wishing and living it vicariously through others. It’s time to Explore, Discover and Dream DO!
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