So … um … what is Happy Free Lifestyle all about?
- Looking at everything you are and everywhere you’ve been …
… and smiling at how far you’ve come
- Accepting that you’ve been pleasing a lot of other people … and starting to quietly please yourself (wink)
- Making mistakes … and forgiving yourself when you do
- Admitting you’ve been workin’ that façade like it’s going out of style … and putting more work into being yourself (whatever that means to you)
- Knowing that sometimes you don’t have your shit together … and accepting yourself every single time accepting that we are all a work in progress
Does that make sense?
When you …
- Secretly wonder if your parents would lose it if they knew the real you
- Are tired of this quest for perfection and just want to relax into yourself
- Are ready to let your guard down and trust you’ll be accepted
… you know you’re in the right place (it’s this one! Yay!)
And when you say words like this and aren’t judged for it, you also know you’re with the right person.
It’s me. Theresa Ho.
We’re about to get real comfortable with each other
- Blending in with the kids at school (think: invisibility)
- Never questioning elders, or attempting to rock the proverbial boat
- Thinking of everyone else before myself
- Pushing myself in academia and making them proud
When I started taking on Western values, my parents judged me for it. I was disappointing them. And when I was being too Asian around my friends, they laughed at me for it. The result? A people-pleasin’ confused Theresa who was struggling to find where on earth acceptance was. So to get that acceptance, I played it safe. Stayed small. Conformed to what everyone else wanted me to be.
In short: I was depressed.
But I felt like I had no right to be. My life wasn’t difficult. Was I making it difficult?
And this? Taught me the power of stepping into someone else’s shoes. Seeing things from their perspective. And not judging myself through their eyes by showing myself compassion..
If my story rings true, I’ve got news for ya:
There’s more to life than walking around living it through the eyes of someone you’re not, living out someone else’s life plan, when you’ve got your own desires to fulfill.
Bruce Lee said it best:
Absorb what is useful. Discard what is not. Add what is uniquely your own.
And y’know what? No more!
It isn’t about giving the middle finger to someone who judges you. It’s about showing them compassion – the same compassion you show yourself. It isn’t about being angry about the experiences you’ve had.
It’s about understanding them to maneuver through the rest of your life.
And this is what Happy Free Lifestyle is about.
I mustered the courage to ask what is important in my life. And it is
- have control of where I spend my time;
- take time off without feeling guilty or cash-strapped;
- embrace who I am, and less of what everyone else wants me to be;
- have options and choose what I want to do; and
- take life into my own hands.
I decided to ask work if they would grant me a personal leave for a year. They said yes. I packed my bags and ventured out to meet new people, travel, and learn how to create a life, and make a living outside of the rat race.
I found the guts to step out of the routine and my comfort zone to live and get back to living a life that makes me feel free and aligned with my soul. And my purpose is to help you reclaim your life and be your authentic self.
We all have one life, it is up to you to choose how you want to show up and live your life.
Ready to Change Your Reality?
And do more of what feeds your soul and fills you up?
I want to support you to start your self-discovery journey and figure out how living life on your terms is possible. And where you can do all this without pissing off those around us (and still be okay with if you do).
Life is short. There’s more to life than walking around wishing and living it vicariously through others. It’s time to Explore, Discover and Dream DO!